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gatorpower
(72.196.116.29) on 5/18/2007 - 5:02 p.m. says: ( 206 views
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"Not any real solutions, but" |
A guy who's been married for 17 years is sent to another state for two weeks on business with a group of co-workers, including his attractive female boss (who happens to be single). When he returns, the construction on their new luxurious home that they built themselves is finally completed so they're able to move in and relax. "Stay on target, stay on target" Given the context of the whole story, this can best be described as a reach. A paranoid dream of a story: a flawed argument made perfect by its sheer convenience. A black hole whose gravity sucks-in every plausible excuse for a failing marriage. Everything got caught in the vortex!! The quintessence of cause-and-effect. There can be no other explanation and the very fact that this was mentioned first makes the argument all the more compelling. It kind of presumes a penthouse-letter-type reality, though. Not that it's impossible, but realistically... ...I would be looking at other options first. You didn't describe a man who could moonlight as a well-hung, always-hard cabana boy. STAY ON TARGET Just as an aside, ever wonder why when a man doesn't have sex with a woman it's his fault, but when a woman doesn't have sex with a man, it's his fault. No. That's not a typo. Fast forward to six months later. Six freaking months? The wife confides in me that she's very unhappy with their marraige now because she and her husband have had sex ONE TIME in the past SIX MONTHS. And, of course, it has to relate somehow to this business trip. They were screwing 5 times a week before then, right? The marriage was honey-suckles and with more sex. He gave her a spit-shine three times a day. I'm sure he does those heel-kicks everytime he walks out of the house lately, on cloud nine. If she's not happy, that must mean that he is. Not only have they not had sex, Tell me more! ...he isn't showing her any affection at all. At first, she thought health problems might have been causing his lack of interest or ability, so she sent him to the Dr. w/ a request that he ask for a Rx of Viagra. She sent him? Like on Indiana Jones? He was recovering the Lost Arc to bring back to the museum. "We have a mission for you, Indy" "Indiana?!" "We named the dog, Indiana!" Somehow the word "sent" and "nag" can probably be interchangable. And, of course, since this marriage is all honey-suckles, she was being very supportive through this whole time The husband returned home saying his cholesterol was high, so he needed to work on that, and oops, "I forgot to ask for Viagra." Oh no, he di'ent, girlfriend!!! F**k dat cholesterol shat, boy! I need da pole in muh sunshine, like right now! He told her he would get a prescription at his next appointment, which was in two months. She patiently waited the two months. I'm sure she was practically Jesus with her patience. Oh come on, I'm just being honest. When a marriage is having problems, I doubt they're both civil towards each other, especially over something like this! (Oh no Gatorpower, she is. She's a saint. She's my friend, if you say anything about her negatively, I'll f**k you up. Please bash away at her arrogant husband, that's why I posted this. If this woman were a man, yes. Yes. She would be Jesus. Jesus or Ghandi, I haven't decided yet. She could also be Abraham Lincoln, but the younger years. Anyway, she would never tell only part of a story to get my sympathy. Got a problem with that? Didn't think so) She's obviously not telling the truth. It's okay. It makes for a better story to say she was patient, but think of the reprocusions of her actually being honest about this. She's having marriage problems, they have a talk, nothing gets resolved and she buys the first line that he gives her. And she's willing to wait two more months for something that was obviously a lie? What does that say about her desire to fix this marriage? When you see things from that perspective, either she's lying or she's just as apathetic as he is. When appointment day arrived and the husband came home, she asked if he got his script. Oops, the Dr. was going to give him a sample, but they got too busy talking about something else and forgot. I hate when that happens! Especially when you really want to have sex! While she's telling me all of this, I asked if she's considered the possiblity he's seeing someone on the side. She admitted that she had checked his cell phone, then the call log and discovered a ton of calls between his phone and one other number so she asked him about it. Considered the possibility? She's probably already gone CSI on his ass. She's been using the blacklight on every article of clothing he's worn for the past 5 months. The inside of his car has been sniffed by blood hounds... THREE TIMES TODAY! Yes, she has the whole "considered" thing covered "Oh, that's my bosses number, I have to call her a lot for work and I'm trying to hook her up with so and so". Well, I will grant you, he is lying. That's a sad excuse. Before any of you come to the conclusion that the wife has let herself go over the years making him lose interest in her, that's far from the truth. She's still a very attractive lady. She told me she has a very close male friend that is more than ready to step in and fill her needs. I wonder how that comes up in conversation. "I'm your close male friend. Let's go out to dinner. Btw, I want to f**k you rotten. So Outback or Applebees? I could go for either one right now, but I am in the mood for a salad. The husband is an arrogant, male chauvinist pig, and I don't know how she's put up with him all of these years It's good to know, you don't have a horse in this race. but she still loves him and wants to try to work things out, so as usual, she keeps coming to me for advice. He doesn't see that there's a problem and shuts down when she tries to talk to him, which makes her walk on eggshells trying to figure out how to bring it up. So we settled on Jesus for this one, right? Abe Lincoln is not a good fit. He was a lawyer, afterall. If you're walking on egg shells with your spouse for any reason, sex is not the problem After my urging, she talked to him Monday and told him that he's working on pushing her into the arms of another man Nothing like emotional blackmail to get what you want. Jesus even preached that one. He was like, "blessed is the backdoor man" and pleaded with him to go the Dr. for a viagra sample. He agreed, and did just that. The night he brought home the meds, she asked him if he would be willing to go to counseling to save their marraige. He agreed. ...then she told him to turn off the g*dd**n television and stop listening to the f**king yankees on the radio and fix the d**n door knob. She called today, saying she needed to talk to me again. I was expecting her to tell me how Viagra was her new best friend, but the sample is still sitting in his drawer, unopened. Of course. What do you think? Think he did the nasty with the boss on their business trip and the guilt is eating him up, making him unable to perform? I don't know what to think. Nothing against you, but this is obviously only one side of the story. It seems both you and her, no offense, have nothing to gain by sharing his side of this arrangement. Not that I side with him. He 'seems' very unwilling to do anything for the marriage and his actions 'seems' to be cowardace. This isn't a pretty marriage and cheating only reveals what was always under the surface. A guy, especially an arrogant, chauvinist does NOT feel guilt like that. I doubt he would have a problem rolling over and getting off whenever he was bored. The issue is not about sex, it's about intimacy. I wouldn't normally have responded to something like this, but it was so obviously one-sided, I had to lol. You know how it is. What kind of answers did you expect when you present this thing from one angle? Ones that conform to your original bias? I think so. |
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Not any real solutions, but gatorpower 5/18/2007 - 5:02 p.m. |
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