decided to show her the post (I will print it....assuming she once again returns) and responses and let her decide what direction she wants to take. I know I am not alone. Bless you all!

Thanks Bob & crew. I'm blown away.

PS...I have no expectations....but maybe somewhere down the road both of us can find peace of mind==============================

There is no greater collection of opinionated, self-promoting, ego-deflating, regime dead-ending, FHA-advocating, I told you so-repeating, anyone could have predicted that-responding, inside source-having, inside source-believing, lifetime-dysfunctional yet achieving, and more loving people I have ever encountered.

Blue Sky, my friend, I would take their collective wisdom about your problem over that of any paid academically or clinically pedigreed professional counselor. God bless you as you make a decision.