And of course I'm not saying it is their fault, just that there are some things they have been doing that are making matters worse, and having observed them, it might be a good idea to avoid them.

These kind of knee jerk reactions are what makes trying to discuss serious issues here so frustrating.==============================

and give in to the demands of Islam?

That is like inviting someone in for tea only to have them demand that you make dinner for them.  By the way they also DEMAND that you to do it in accordance with their halal customs and they threaten VIOLENCE if you don't meet their demands.

My point is that there is ZERO interest by a large percentage of the population to assimilate in the secular culture of Europe.  They simply see it as giving up their culture and religious imperative to do so.  No rambling or pontificating, no matter how well intended, changes this basic facts. For fundamentalist, doing so may be considered apostasy.   Sorry, but that is the VERY ESSENCE of ISIS beliefs and it is in Europe. 

They are not killing folks because they are being treated differently in some violent surge for equality. They already have that due to the secular nature of Europe.  They are killing because they consider it a religious duty due to the concepts of Islamic supremacy and the acceptance of violence as a useful method to spread it.